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A French dinner party: from apéro to digestif

The order of a French dinner at friends' home: apéritif, starter, main, cheese, dessert, coffee and digestif, with what to say and do at each stage.

In short

A French dinner at friends' home follows a rhythm: l'apéro (drinks and nibbles), l'entrée, le plat principal, le fromage (before dessert!), le dessert, le café, and sometimes le digestif. It often lasts three hours or more.

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Five pieces of cheese arranged on a simple wooden serving board.
In a traditional French meal, le fromage comes before dessert. Photo: Benoît Prieur, CC0 via Wikimedia Commons

The evening

  1. 20 h 00
    On arrive avec un petit cadeau, un quart d'heure de retard.You arrive with a small gift, about fifteen minutes late.
  2. 20 h 15
    L'apéro : un verre et des chips ou des olives.Apéro: a drink with crisps or olives.
  3. 21 h 00
    À table ! L'entrée.Dinner's served! The starter.
  4. 21 h 30
    Le plat principal.The main course.
  5. 22 h 15
    Le plateau de fromages, avec du pain.The cheese board, with bread.
  6. 22 h 45
    Le dessert.Dessert.
  7. 23 h 15
    Le café, puis parfois un digestif.Coffee, then sometimes a digestif.
  8. minuit
    On se dit au revoir… pendant vingt minutes !Goodbyes… for twenty minutes!

Key words

Vocabulary
FrenchEnglish
l'apéropre-dinner drinks
l'entréestarter
le plat principalmain course
le plateau de fromagescheese board
le digestifafter-dinner drink
À table !Dinner's ready!

Arriving exactly on time can catch hosts unprepared: a quart d'heure de politesse (polite quarter-hour) is normal. Bring flowers, chocolates or wine (though some hosts won't open your wine that evening). Wait for the host's bon appétit before eating, and keep your hands on the table.

Pendant le dîner
  1. Hôte

    Vous reprendrez un peu de fromage ?

    Will you have a bit more cheese?

  2. Toi

    Avec plaisir, il est délicieux. C'est quel fromage ?

    With pleasure, it's delicious. Which cheese is it?

  3. Hôte

    Un saint-nectaire, d'Auvergne.

    A Saint-Nectaire, from Auvergne.

Question 1No account needed
When does cheese come?

Choose one answer.

Answer and explanation

before dessert. In France, cheese comes before dessert.

Question 2No account needed
Un quart d'heure de politesse means…

Choose one answer.

Answer and explanation

arriving about fifteen minutes late. Arriving slightly late is polite.